How to Pray for a Girl you like

As a Christian man, your faith and beliefs is an integral part of your life. When you begin to come of age, it is only natural that you desire to find a girl, date her and then fall in love with her. It cannot be just any girl. It is expected that this special girl must share the same moral and spiritual values as you. A girl with fine godly morals will certainly appeal more to you because of the ideals and values that you also uphold.

When meeting your dream girl for the first time, do not be shy. The first thing you must do is try to project an image of self confidence, if you must get her to like you. Women love that a great deal. Make eye contact when you are talking to her. Be polite and friendly. Remember, you may not get her if you don’t speak up. Chances are she may also be into you as much as you are into her. Make sure you are open and honest in your conversations with her. This is most definitely going to make you look like you know what you are doing even if you don’t. Try going close to her or sit beside her and then strike up a conversation with her. You could start with small talk like: “Hey, how’re you doing? My name is Martin and I think you have such a beautiful smile.” As you both get to know each other better, you could build up a more lengthy conversation like finding out her interests, hobbies and favourite TV shows. Do not forget that there is a thin line between confidence and arrogance, so know exactly where to draw the line so you don’t come off as a person who is self absorbed.  

Secondly, it is also very important to seek the affection of a girl that appeals greatly to you both in physical looks and in character. Men are more visual beings than women are. Their pleasure begins first from a woman’s physical looks before anything else. If you are totally content with her physical appearance, the temptation might not arise for your eyes to rove each time you see a woman walk by that totally fits your specification.

In order to have a healthy and long lasting relationship with a Christian girl, you must make out time to work on improving yourself spiritually by building your devotional life. Dedicate an amount of time to meditate and reflect on God’s role in your life. Discover new ways you can strengthen your relationship with your heavenly Father. Yes, the world is moving at a fast pace and work or study schedules could be quite busy. You might hardly be able to find time to be alone in God’s presence. You could start with devotion for fifteen minutes each day, where you study your bible and end with prayer. Getting active in your local church could also help draw you closer to God. You will also be making yourself available for older Christians to counsel and mentor you. These are experienced people who have been there and done that. They’ve walked the ropes before you and know exactly how to guide you. As you continue in your close walk with God, you will discover that you are more strengthened spiritually to avoid situations that could tempt you to sin such as heavy drinking, an ungodly party or gathering, or doing something you may need to conceal by telling lies. You do not have to marry a girl just because the two of you are dating. If you are not ready for that level of commitment, be very clear with her from the onset. Let her then decide if she also wants to date you casually until you both decide to take things a step further.

Whether you are a college student or an adult with an established career, it is important to know that you must have an honourable and reliable character if you must successfully attract a good Christian girl. A sensible Christian girl would want to study you first to ascertain the strength of your character. She will assess you to see if you are someone she can have a serious relationship with that could eventually end in marriage. So you should aim to be the best at what you do. Work hard. Be diligent and consistent in all your dealings. As you become consistent with your lifestyle, you will eventually build an enviable reputation which any girl will be unwise not to fall for you. Once she can trust that you are capable of providing and protecting your household, your task of making her like you would be easier. Do your best to embody the virtues described in the Bible. It will help you to build strong Christian values that will prepare you for the role of the man this girl will forever love and admire. These core virtues can be found in the book of 1Corinthians 13:4-7 which says: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” Pray for God to work on you and give you the grace to put away any character flaw that may hinder you from having a fulfilling relationship with the girl of your dreams. Be sincere with yourself in admitting any flaw you may be struggling with such as not being patient with the shortcomings of people or being unnecessarily suspicious of people.

We are aware of the popular saying that “the heart wants what it wants.” Ensure that your spirit agrees with that of the girl you are physically attracted to. While you may have no power over her feelings for you, chances are you might be able to influence her to like you the same way that you like her. There are certain steps in prayer that you could take to make that attraction happen for you.


  1. Lord, please send me a girl I really like and would want to have a future with. Let her be devoted to me as much as I am devoted to her. Give us the grace to honour one another above ourselves, in Jesus name, amen (Romans 12:10).
  2. O Lord, you have said in Your word that it is not good for the man should be alone; that you will make a helper fit for me. I thank You Father, for creating the perfect lady for me with my own missing rib. Lord, please send her my way and convict my spirit to recognize her immediately when I see her in Jesus name, amen (Genesis 2:18-25).
  3. Heavenly Father, Your word says that two are better than one because they have a good return for their labour. If either of us falls down, the one can help the other up. Do not let me walk through life without that exceptional girl who will help me up. Father, Your word also says that if two lie down together, they will keep warm. The world is a cold and cruel place o Lord, how can one keep warm alone? I pray that you grant me favour to meet that one girl who will complement me perfectly to achieve this together in Jesus mighty name, amen (Ecclesiastes 4:9).
  4. Heavenly Father, give us the grace to care about each other in a way that love and faithfulness will never leave us. Let us bind the love we have for each other around our necks for a remembrance. Let us write our love on the tablet of our hearts so that we can always have favour and a good name in Your sight and in the sight of men in Jesus name, amen (Proverbs 3:3-4).
  5. Lord Jesus, please empower my girl to look for joy all around her instead of depending on me solely for her happiness. Give her the wisdom to not focus on what is missing but focus rather on what we can continually build together for each day of our lives together as a couple. Give her a new song to sing each day. Let gladness constantly overtake her and cause sorrow and sighing to flee far away from her that she may always find inner peace in Jesus name, amen (Isaiah 35:10).
  6. Father, bestow my future girl and I with all humility and gentleness, with patience that will bear each other’s shortcomings and flaws in love. Most important of all, give us the grace to continue to show deep love for each other because true and unconditional love covers a multitude of sins. Let us be eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace, in Jesus name, amen (Ephesians 4:2-3; 1Peter 4:8).

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